We need to talk. About the Kardashians. As I was perusing Facebook this afternoon I saw a post that a friend who I usually consider to be pretty enlightened shared on their facebook wall. The text of the post, as delivered by a group titled ai???Expand your Consciousnessai???, is as follows: paroxetine no rx, purchase dapoxetine.
ai???Malala Yousafzai & Kylie Jenner. Both turned 18 recently. One was given a Ferrari and spent thousands on facial modification. The other was awarded a Nobel Peace Prize, survived a gunshot to the face by the Taliban due to corruption in her country, and opened a school for Syrian refugees to combat the lack of education for youth around the world. Whatai??i??s upsetting is the media is only covering one of these stories as ai???breaking newsai???. Share the post to spread real love and inspiration across the youth of the world. Last thing to note, Malala is infinitely more beautiful!ai???
Letai??i??s set a couple things straight here. Malala is not, nor has she ever been, ignored by the press. That she is the recipient of a Nobel Peace Prize is proof of the recognition she has been given. She won one of the most esteemed prizes in the world for her contributions to the causes she, as an individual with increasing free will, is passionate about. The Malala Fund on twitter touts over 300 thousand followers. Not bad for a non-profit. Malala has a book, published by Little, Brown and Company, a publishing company that has bragging rights to multiple national best sellers. Malalaai??i??s book is a national bestseller – with a major motion picture attached to it. There are childrenai??i??s books that introduce Malala to a younger crowd of fans and disciples. Malala has been featured in The New York Times, Vanity Fair, The Guardian, BBC News, NBC, Teen Vogue, the Chicago Tribune, and countless other esteemed media outlets. Malala has been featured in a wide array of media that connects her and her story intimately with fans of all ages and education levels. Malala is far from ignored in the press. Period.
Do I believe that her exposure has been entirely fair or as wide as it should be? No. But that is not a symptom of one eighteen year old woman being more successful than another, nor is it any fault of Malalaai??i??s or Kylieai??i??s. Our news outlets are broken, not our young women. Stop, for the love of everything good, STOP pitching young women against each other. It is no more Kylieai??i??s fault than it is Malalaai??i??s that most journalists would rather report on a wardrobe malfunction or a hair color change than cover the Nobel Peace Prize. Malalaai??i??s success is not Kylieai??i??s failure. Kylieai??i??s success is not Malalaai??i??s failure.
We cannot deny that Kylie Jenner was born into a world of privilege. Her father is an Olympic athlete turned voice for the trans community. Her mother is a successful manager in Hollywood. She grew up in a country where, though it isnai??i??t perfect, women have more free will than they do in many other places. She had the privilege to grow up in a country where, given her familyai??i??s social and financial status, she has had the freedom to pursue nearly any dream she wants to pursue. The Kardashians can be zany and controversial and, no, they arenai??i??t everyoneai??i??s cup of tea. Each child in the Kardashian/Jenner family, however, for the most part, does work for a living. They have fashion lines, run boutiques, make a million appearances (supply and demand, folks. Americans WANT the Kardashians and the Jenners to show up. Believe it or not, making appearances like they do is taxing in its own way. I know. I appear with celebrities often. Itai??i??s the same thing as your favorite author, actress, sci-fi series creator showing up to shake your hand and sign an autograph for you), run their own makeup and perfume lines, appear as models on the runways for the brands we all love to covet. It may not be your brand of work or ambassadorship, but for a girl still in her teens, Kylie is doing something with her life. Sheai??i??s been on this planet for eighteen short years. Give her time to find her own passion and her own causes to care about.
I never imagined I would write a piece defending the Kardashians or the Jenners. But I believe in every womanai??i??s ability to choose her own path. If that path happens to be working with refugees and furthering education, good for her. If that path happens to be running her own fashion or makeup line, thatai??i??s fine, too. Why is Kylie Jenner disrespected for doing the same thing Anastasia Beverly Hills, Vera Wang, Donatella Versace, Bobbi Brown, and so many others who are older than her have been commended for doing?
Kylie should not be commended for being a good will ambassador. That isnai??i??t what she is, or what she strives to be. She is a young, up and coming designer in the beauty industry who is finding her feet and figuring out who she is. That she hasnai??i??t, and doesnai??i??t strive to, win a Nobel Peace Prize is not something that should be thrown in her face as a failure.
There is room in the world for both women to be commended for their accomplishments. There is room in the world for both women to be their own kind of beautiful. That Kylie has had surgery and Malala hasnai??i??t does not make either young woman any less or more valuable than the other. They are equally valuable because they are human beings. And neither of them needs to fit into a box that society and mass media wants to place them in.
This is whatai??i??s wrong with our media outlets. We give attention to the fact that Kylie Jenner has had lip injections and Malala hasnai??i??t, somehow summing up their beauty like they entered a pageant. They didnai??i??t, and we have no right to compare them. We choose to write negatively and put one woman down for not accomplishing the same things as another well known woman. It isnai??i??t the girls. Itai??i??s the press the girls receive. Someone write an article commending Kylie for developing her own beauty line before she was eighteen years old. Someone write an article commending Malala for starting a school before she was eighteen years old. Let the positive press for this young entrepreneur and this young civil rights activist, from two completely (sadly) different backgrounds live side by side in harmony. Let these peaceful, positive articles lift other young women up to achieve their dreams in a safe and supportive environment-whether those dreams are to pen books, teach refugees, star in films, or-yes- develop their own makeup line.
One womanai??i??s success in her field and in her passions is not another womanai??i??s failure. Stop destroying young women by comparing us.
Young women, if you want to be a housewife or a bread winner, a stay at home mom or a CEO, a beauty blogger or an athlete, a civil rights activist or an interior designer, DO IT. If you want to be all of those things, do it. One womanai??i??s choices do not make yours less valid. One womanai??i??s success does not make you less worthy. It takes all kinds to keep this world spinning. Find your passion and go after it. Be a woman who stands for all women, even if their choices donai??i??t look like yours.There is beauty in the fact that otherai??i??s choices wonai??i??t look like yours. Embrace it. Maybe one day our media outlets will embrace it, too.
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