I’ve recently been asking myself this question, based on a certain situation in my life that has given me pause. I’ve taken time to reflect on my own actions in this ai???mean girlai??? process and have come to the conclusion that the truth is taken much differently person to person. What may seem like no big deal to one person might tear another personai??i??s world apart. Whether I am being brutally honest with someone or I am hurting them with my words has become a blurred line that I do not necessarily approve of in myself. I have always been a firm believer that the truth is always the right answer. Truth, by definition, means ai???that in which is in accordance with fact or realityai???. The reality of the situation is that an older woman, to whom I still wholeheartedly believe is not honest with herself about her capacity to be a ai???mean girlai???, pointed out that my attitude does not correlate with my words. Am I being honest or am I simply saying something rude because I don’t care about that person? The truth is, I’m brutally honest with everyone, almost to a fault. I will not hesitate to tell you your shirt is ugly or your eyebrows aren’t great. The woman I speak of had much to say on the way I treat people and for that reason I’ve decided to write this piece, with help from my dear friend, Jasmine.
We all have the potential to be a mean girl, don’t we? We have the means to hurt those we care about in order to protect ourselves. From what? The truth. We must use all means necessary to avoid the truths we do not want to vocalize about ourselves, because then those faults become real. Being a mean girl is an option for escape; if we take our hurt and insecurities out on someone else, we can avoid our own issues. There are times when we have an in depth discussion with our friends and say something negative about another. We don’t think those words will get around do we? They’re safe. Those words are held within the confines of a tight knit friendship right? Wrong. What happens when that friendship suffers and those words fly right out of that ai???trustedai??? person’s mouth? You hurt someone without ever meaning to. Most people can say they have done this very thing. Why are we so careless with our words, especially when it comes to the ones we love the most? The truth does not mean you need to be cruel. There is a difference between honesty and putting others down. Sometimes the truth is not nice or positive or sunshine and roses, but it is necessary. If it is unnecessary or gratuitous, then maybe we are getting into the realm of putting someone down. Maybe then it is time to look at ourselves and figure out what went wrong within us to make those words fly out of our mouths so easily.
We all know a Regina George. We may all be a Regina George at times. The question is, what can we do together to find a peace within ourselves and those around us? Negativity isn’t necessary, however, kindness is.